Why men love CP

Barry Meyers-Rice (barry@as.arizona.edu)
Tue, 13 Feb 1996 10:20:55 -0700

> This is something I discussed with lots of people in Europe.
>Where are all the women? Why don't they like CPs as much as us men? I was
>told it's pretty much the same in other plants societies, with only a
>minority of women. Why do they seem to only *like* plants, but do not
>cultivate them obsessively like men?

Krissy and Becky and other XX growers noted, I think that Fernando's
observation is absolutely justified. Krissy raises some valid reasons
for this, and I wish to add two.

The first is that CP are initially attractive to growers because of their
grotesque reversal of what we perceive as the natural order of things.
Such a fascination with the gruesome is usually only accepted easily for
males (at least in my culture). Such an interest is simply not considered
within the normal ken of females (again, in my culture).

---->Please note the previous paragraph does not reflect my personal
beliefs, but is rather my analysis of cultural perceptions.

A second idea is one I am willing to defend. A few nights ago at dinner
with friends the old ``Men are insensitive, women are caring'' topic came
up. I posed the observation that in pets, dogs are characteristically
identified as a man's pet while cats are identified as a woman's pet
(I KNOW this is not the rule---humor me). Yet dogs love their owners in a
devoted, unconditional way while cats tend to be aloof and more
unresponsive. See the contrast with stereotypes of men and women?
One of the women present suggested, ``In dogs, men seek the unconditional
love they got from their mums. Men can be jerks and dogs still love them.''
Heh heh. Well, I don't know if that is the case, but plants in cultivation
are completely dependent upon their owners. A very doglike dependency there.

Rick Walker once astutely noted that growing plants is perhaps the closest
men can get to the life-creating side of childbirth.
....and I would add, without 15 hours of labour pains.

Barry